I think for me it was forcing religion on me for 18 years and forcing me to attend a church I had no interest in whatsoever.
Not getting an abortion.
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I never realised that the man and woman screaming at each other were my parents.I cant remember either of them conversing with me or my 5 siblings, only grunt and point for guidance.I dont think they knew they were doing it "wrong",as both were first time parents, even though they were both from big families. What they never did, ,did. I raised 4 boys, 1 girl, completely opposite to the way i was dragged up. They and their kids (10 between them ) are all bright and articulate.
i think the biggest mistake my mom made, was putting her men first, and married three times...each to t he wrong guy, my last step dad, was verbally abusive, and i think bipolar....he was a creepy little man..
Like you, it's to do with religion. They baptised me as a Catholic, and I don't agree with the Catholic faith.
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Attempting to make me as conservative as they are, in attitude and dress. It made my rebellious and extrovert nature even stronger! I'm an adult now, and have two daughters, and I'm still just as 'mad' as ever. My daughters love me for it, and say they'd hate it if I was a boring 'traditional' mother (whatever that is). Dr. Laura::
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pretending to be happy, then divorcing when I was 21. I'll never get over that. I feel betrayed.
My mum did a good job...but maybe she put what other family think before me when she shouldn't have. Also she never really taught me the value of money - meaning i'm really bad with it now and in loads of debt.
pitting us against eachother. a lack of love.
nothing.
That is why I am who I am today.
i was spoilt.
Well, my parents did that to me too, but I don't think that was the worst thing... Hm, I'd have to say that it was using me as a psychiatrist or divorce councelor when I was 7-9. I honestly didn't want to know about how my mom cheated on my dad or anything else they told me. Scarred for life, like?
For me it was my mom (she had no choice you know, she couldn't stop me, which hurt her so much but) she let me move in with my father. Of course now I am all grown up with children of my own and my mother and I have opened up to each other about it. She had tried everything she could to keep me out of his house! She talked to lawyers and doctors and my therapist and there was nothing she could do until I said that his house was unsafe! It was! He was/is an alcoholic (as is his wife.) My father also has a coke problem.The problem was that my mother had no prove that could stop me from living there. He let my step-brother and I do whatever we wanted! I partied the whole time I lived there. It started at 13 and was an on and off thing until I was 17. I developed a drug problem and a drinking problem (and a sleepy around problem.) I do not blame him for the stupid decisions I made. I do not regret my stupid decisions. I would not be who I am today without all my stupidity!
Being a parent now, I know that we screw up! Sometime majorly, there is no book on how to do this.
Honestly the biggest mistake my parents made was not enough discipline ...as bad as I was they should have spanked my butt a lot more than they did... and held me responsible for my actions... instead of finding ways to make it seem like someone Else's fault..
Focusing too much attention on the things that don't really matter?
I wonder if my parents influence (always do your best) and focusing on the little things maybe it was for nothing and is making life harder because it's hard to get away from that idea.
It still works well for me but I would hardly say that I'm contented. I was really depressed again last night. I feel so alone. I'm married and have a great husband. I wonder if I'm too much of a perfectionist. But I'm not. Things do not have to be perfect and they won't be. I think standards are sliding and mediocrity seems expected and the norm.
This is a great question.
I don't have children. I don't fault my parents at all. They did the best they could do. That is all that can be expected. They tried.
Religion was never forced onto me. They encouraged me to think for myself.
edit: My dad is too preoccupied with money and what other people have. Comparing me and us to other people too much and where I always came up short. My mom is judgmental. There was too much negativity. There was too much feeling of inadequacy and not enough acceptance. Anything I accomplished was not really recognized. I'm going to start crying so I should stop. To never feel good enough even though you work so hard and try so hard is a very hard feeling to live with. It makes you feel like you are just unworthy of the great things in life. It can bring you to depression and on the brink.
Need to get rid of the toxic people in my life. I don't mean to just not talk to them but to get their voices out of my head. (My son is so rich. He really fell into it. My kids are smarter than your kids. Your kids went to private school. I still have the scars from being bitten by one of them repeatedly.) To change the thoughts that exist. Maybe I need therapy. If only I could afford it. Would it help? I can probably do it on my own if I'm determined enough. I have strong determination.
Why is it the people closest to you hurt you the most? I don't think it's intentional. How do you end the cycle?
I am really good at hiding my emotions. No doctor has ever been able to see how sad I am. You would think that maybe it would be wearing on me? Am I good person? I don't even know anymore.
I love my parents but they really hurt me. One boyfriend I dated got really upset with my mom in particular and said that when we were married that he would be having a long talk with her. My husband always comforts me after a visit. I don't even know that I need comforting. He says things like, no one is judging you. Do what you think is right. Don't worry so much.
The biggest mistake my parents made was not using a condom.
Splitting up and telling me all about it when I was ten.
bringing religion into your life, or trying to, is not a mistake in my opinion. We all need something to believe in.
My mother's mistake was putting her husband before us, and she still does it to this day. As a result, she has lost 2 of us. My dad, in my opinion, didn't show us enough love, or if he did, it wasn't in the right way. Although, now im all grown up, I can see how much he does love us and how far he will go to protect us. You don't always see things the right way when you're a kid.
The psychological torment/abuse that was thrust upon me by my father for 5 years after my mother left him.
 I dropped automotive school after 2 monrths in 1987 and I ' m just being charged with loan default in 2007.?
 Cable guy crossed the line?
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What is the biggest mistake your parents made in raising you?