Throughout my life, I have never gotten on well with my mother. She is the most horrible person I have ever met (and I've met some pretty nasty people). She basically treats me like garbage every time we have a conversation and I've been putting up with this since I was just a kid. It is important to acknowledge the extent of her insanity.
First of all, she speaks the most evil of profanities to my father who works his hardest every minute of every day to make a living. He earned an MBA at London Business School so he's clearly an intelligent man. He gets up at 6:00 every morning and comes home late. Yet, every day, and even during the night, my mother will complain about how little money he makes and how everyone else is better off than us - despite the fact that my Dad brings home 100 grand every year. Her arguments are vicious, rude, hypocritical, selfish, self righteous, and downright disgraceful. She complains that we aren't able to go on a skiing holiday this year (despite the fact that we're enduring one of the worst financial crises in history!), she complains about how we can't live in the USA (her origin), she complains about how my Dad isn't home enough, and then complains about how he isn't doing enough work, she complains about how he shouldn’t have started up a new business, she complains about why my Dad's business isn't doing as well as she'd hoped. These complaints don’t seem too ridiculous, but it’s the way she says them and the amount of times she complains which is what can only be described as madness/mental illness.
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The How I Met Your Mother actress (yeah, I said it) March 15th, 2008 at 6:44 am. whoais she supposed to become a recluse??? how insanelet her be!
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Now I'm not just talking small-scale complaints, I'm talking about disturbing, vicious, heart-breaking complaints on my Dad’s behalf (because he works so hard). This morning for example, I woke up to hear my own mother telling my Dad that she wants to hire a hit man to kill him. This may sound surprising, but to me it only comes as a slight shock because of all the other horrible things she has spoken beforehand.
And that’s just the start of it.
When I’m in the car for one reason or another, my mother takes it all out on me and tries to shift the blame on me. She tells me I don’t do enough work (even though I work hard but have special needs), she complains about how few friends I have, and she does whatever she can to make me feel bad about myself.
Oh, and she's also an unbelievably irrational human being. There is no way to ask her to see a doctor, to talk things over etc. because she just won’t listen.
I can’t go on any longer like this. Please help, please!
If you are under 18 , then you have my condolences and prayers....from what you describe, to me it does not sound like mental illness, per se, but rather and extremely unhappy woman who has no compunction about voicing it (loudly) to whomever she blames for ehr choices in that moment.
I strongly urge you tos tay as far OUT of the issues in your parents marriage as possible, because, no matter your age, you are their child and as such, cannot see it clearly....but you should try to remind her how hurtful this all is for you, and possibly, ask your dad to help you voice your concerns and worries to her in a productive manner....also, you are not prohibited, I would not imagine, for seeking help for youself , to cope with these issues.
OK, well sorry for what you have to endure. It's good that you have such a smart Dad to look up to. My parents' relationship and the family situation for me is abysmal too. My mom has pushed everyone to breaking point and beyond, I came very close to ending my life at one stage because of the pressure. It takes years to find your own way in life and you will most definitely get there, it's just painful still being young and at home. Actually I think this kind of thig is the norm and the 'perfect family' is the exception, but that doesn't excuse your mom's behaviour. I think she is probably living in her own personal version of hell, and sometimes the more you have, the worse your behaviour becomes as a human being. She must be unhappy about a lot of things in her life. All you can do is take every day as it comes and mentor yourself and keep getting over the upsets until you are old enough to go your own way. Eventually you will outgrow their problems and it won't affect you as much. I'm 28 and my parents still upset me when I see them every week but I am over letting them get to me and I really don't care what they say or do any more, they don't really affect me too badly now. x Am I a woman scientist?: Labor brain::
While I had no experience of the supposed pregnancy brain that robs women of I am driving my mother and the dog completely insane misery loves company.
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get her to drink anti-freeze
its all the rage with stategic murder
You have the option to move out regardless of your 'special needs'. Don't live with her. Simple. It is up to your Father to do the same if he wants to.
if they divorce she will get half the stuff??....we'll your dad will have to speak to a lawyer about it. What your mum is doing is considered emotional abuse. So if they divorce, your dad can fight to keep his stuff and the house and for your mother to get alot of therapy.
But he will have to speak to his lawyer. Divorce would be the best thing here. Talk to your dad about it.
Believe it or not, but I understand your pain. My family sounds the same. My father is also an intelligent man who works exceedingly hard to support his ungrateful nasty wife (my mother). I eventually distanced myself from her and my father and I have to secretly meet up so he can see my children and I (I'm 22 mother of 2 almost 3). I also believe my mother is irrational and is of need of medical/psychological help which I know she'll never be willing to entertain the idea and therefore never get the help she needs. My mother has caused physically harm (with intention of killing-armed with weapons, paid hitmen, etc) to my father, myself and my fiancee.
I ended up finding safety in distancing myself from my mother. Assure your father you will help him if he ever desides to do the same (he'll have to figure out for himself in his own time..although it's painful to watch him go through it, you're a little stuck for choice. Once again-like me and my father). Catch up with your father whenever you can (even if it is for 5min 1x/week bringing him lunch to work or whatever you can do). Focus on creating yourself a new happier life.
I'm sorry you're going through the same as me.
Best wishes xxx
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