My Fiancee likes to take risks. I am not as prone to taking them as she is. She has this fantasy of having our own farm. But I don't like the idea of eating eggs that have just came out the buttocks of Butterbean (our hypothetical chicken friend). To me, that is gross!
Ignorance is bliss in this case.
She wants to have our own garden, pigs, cows, chickens, etc. But I don't want to kill any animals. I certainly don't want to have to kill and clean any of the animals. It's disgusting to me.
She wants what I consider to be 'pseudoindependence.' To me, the idea of independence is an obsolete one. The way society is today, we can't afford to isolate ourselves and live away from other people.
Can we?
If I am wrong, tell me so! If she is wrong, tell me so! (Then I'll tell her!)
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My Fiancee is constantly talking about a catastrophic event...war...chaos...anarchy...martial law. She believes that it will happen someday. She wants to be prepared for it.
Is she crazy? Am I crazy?
Even if that does happen one day, how can we ever be prepared for it, really?
Whatever her reason, I think "getting off the grid" would be a great thing. Solar panels, propane and some generators, wireless internet, you'd be set. I'd love to be in a position where I could give it a shot. What's the worse that can happen? You try it, you hate it, you move back to civilization.
Well... it sounds good in theory. Actually when my parents were looking at buying some acerage in Colorado, the real estate agent pointed over to a piece of land and said ''And over there lives a doctor in a house that he had built underground. He has his own generator and well and paid off everything, so he has no outside bills to pay...''
So yeah, of course it's possible. Anything's possible actually. Here in Turkey and Bulgaria there are a lot of farms and people have no choice but to live off their small farms. It's actually a pretty sad life, but usually there's more than 2 people who take care of these small farms. The whole family, or at least part of the family, or a maid and their family lives there and helps out. It's a different, simpler and more pioneering kind of lifestyle.
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Maybe, if your fiancee is really serious about a farm, she could get a job similar job and see if he wants to really do it, if she has no previous experience. Sometimes the fantasy leaves a lot to be desired when the reality come about.
I actually don't think it's a bad idea of hers. I mean she sounds like she knows what she wants and she's trying to get there, but you don't believe she can and have doubts. I actually want to have my own island some day, so I can see he logic. My mom says it is better to be independant- most people know that already. Even a sociology professor will tell you that big companies only care about themselves and absolutely do not care or have no interest in their employees, except if it serves them. So it's actually pretty smart to be as independant, self- actualizing and self reliant as one can be.
But that being said, you can't go too hermit-like with being independant. If you're running to a cave because you're paranoid of people that's a different thing. Maybe she might have some anxiety about the current events of the world if she's preparing for the worst. But, no I wouldn't say 'crazy' anymore than people in the 1950's were 'crazy' about buying backyard nuclear bomb shelters were. In the whole history of the world there's always been something catastrophic going on, why start worrying now?
Anyway you have faith in God, so that's about as prepared as you can get when it concerns the things you can't control.
I think your girlfriend needs a reality check. I think she should spend a month or two working on a farm or ranch. You know, one where she would have to get up a couple hours before breakfast... 7 days a week... to begin caring for all those animals: feeding & watering them, mucking out stalls & pens & coops, milking, collecting eggs, etc. One where she would have to stack hay bales, carry-in and store feed bags, repair fences and gather up straying live stock, can fruits and vegetables, etc. regardless of how tired or sick she is or how hot / cold it happens to be outside.
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She should also be reminded that sooner or later she will need to see a dentist or doctor or will be hospitalized. Her animals will need Vet care. She will need to have medical and property insurence and pay taxes. She will need to buy clothes and shoes and all those other things she won;t be able to grow or make herself...like cars, trucks, farm equipment (plus their gasoline/tires/insurence/repairs), electricity, fuel oil, tools, fencing, building supplies, electronics and appliances. She will need to either have enough land to grow the feed, hay and straw her animals will need or she will have to buy it. That all takes money.
Unless she has a rich relative willing to finance her farm life style..she'll have to figure out how she will earn that money.
Raising farm animals is hard work and it means you are committed to that work 365 days a year, there is no such thing as a 40 hour/5 day work week on a farm or ranch. It's like motherhood...it's a 24 hour/7 day work week job. You can't be gone from your animals for more then a few hours (like to go to an out of town wedding or funeral) much less go on a vacation trip, not unless you hire someone to come and take care of things for you. And if she thinks it's hard to find someone to plant/dog/cat/house/apt. sit...try finding someone who'll milk your cows twice a day.
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Most smaller "independant" farms and ranches today, even with 100s of acres, are lucky to break even most years after the bills are paid. All the farmers and ranchers I know also work "hourly wage jobs" to help pay the bills...especially the ones with kids to support as well.
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If your girl is serious about living like this and you are not..maybe you should rethink this mis-match.while there is time.
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