No, it can be beneficial
no,
It hurts the person who has to be the big meanie just as much.
If the person said nothing about a bad situation they are showing no love. No one wants to be the bad guy but for the sake of caring enough for a person they do what is not comfortable in that persons best interest.
I will struggle with this one. I do not know. Love is love, nothing more or less could ever make love tougher than what it in reality is, and nothing could make it any lighter either. It is just that the people can be tough or kind in their person, not love, love remains the same for all to experience, kings, courier, artisans, poets and philosophers all alike.
Then what is the problem, why do I think I will struggle? I think such descriptions of the prime concepts of the mind, such as love, makes it hard for the ones in love, as toughness would then be theirs personally to examines, and cruelty their effect to reimburse, or get undone.
This is quite obvious here that in the use of language that higher we get in concepts the lesser becomes any need qualify them with the use of objectives. This is almost superfluous to say: â ˜this is the right truthâ ™, as there cannot be wrong truth, or to say, â ˜this is an appropriate justiceâ ™, or, â ˜this is a tough justiceâ ™, as justice is just what it is, justice, nothing less and nothing more would make it any different.
Then when we do use objectives with concepts like these, we I think mean do for personal reasons, as for instance, â ˜tough loveâ ™, signify not that love was tough, but one particular experience of love of a person.
This I therefore take that we do not talk about love but some experience of love that has been tough. I really do not know what to say: as if love I experienced was tough right from the starts and this is why it became cruel.
no, that would just be TOUGH....
For me, love is soft and cool, it can be fiery and feisty but not tough.
Tough love deprives people their freedom, their joy of being equal, to be themselves. I can't say tough love is cruel because for me tough love is rather egoism than real love.
no its helpful
no it is not
First of all: what is tough love? I think very often we punish someone not because we think it will do them any good, but because we enjoy it so much. Are you really so certain that you have the right to intervene in another person's life? Are you really so certain that your actions are helping them? As Jesus said, judge not, lest ye be judged.
Doesn't it depend on the original reason? Some will use it just for ego games - men as well as women. Keen: Brigid Bishop on Life, Love and The Art of Living : Tough Love in ::
Tough Love in the Garden of Eden The first example of Tough Love is on his own in a world that can be harsh and cruel, but he will become
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It depends how different people see life.
A quite famous life quote is: "When ever I hear people say life is tough, I always think to myself... 'compared to what?'"
Tough love teaches you to appreciate what you have, but then again, it depends what you mean by tough love.
According to this article below, definitely. However, it is an extreme example of the breakdown of parenting in its worst form. Children should be taught a healthy respect for parents and authority beginning at about age 2. This is my opinion. However, since I do not have any children of my own, it does not hold much merit. I just observe other families raising their own children and I have discovered that by watching them, the younger the child is taught respect, the less chance the child will have as a teen ending up in a place such as the one in the article. Growing up for me was an ongoing nightmare. I not only had a healthy respect for my parents and any authority figures, I was terrified of them. My parents went to the extreme opposite to control me. I have no idea why. I was a very calm and non-intrusive child. My mother told me that I was very happy as a little girl. Laughing and smiling all the time. I can confirm that by looking at my photos as a child. But when my dad left our family for good when I was about 7 yrs old , everything went wrong. After the step-dad showed up, my sister and I felt doomed. I don't recall a happy day since then, until just recently (within the past month or so). I am in my mid 40's.
ps. I like your answer, Larissa. It echoes so many things for me, especially the line, 'in reality they're just trying to cover up the fact that they're not helping them (the kids) for motives of personal gain'. Oh boy, did that hit home and hurt bad... [parenthesis mine]
Nora Explora's answer sound about right. However, someone shouldn't confuse tough love with laziness to care about someone they should - i.e. not to help someone when they're obviously struggling can both be tough love (acceptable) and downright neglect (unacceptable), depending on the situation and preceding events. tough love is also not to be confused with egocentricity; someone may say that they're giving someone else tough love but in reality they're just trying to cover up the fact that they're not helping them for motives of personal gain. like for any mildly philosphical question, there's probably not a definitive answer...
nope...I see it as very loving...
No actually tough love is a taste of reality in a soup of self indulgence.
 Is it a gift or a curse to find beauty in all things?
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Is TOUGH LOVE cruel?