I'm in the army and deployed to Iraq, my wife is in CA and 40% of the time when i call her she isn't there, we have a 3yr son and been married 4yrs. I have13y daughter from my with my ex and I told my recent wife to visit her 'cause she was having surgery and she said she honestly don't feel like dealing with my ex and flying to the West cost. I asked her to take our son to my parents for Thanksgiving who live 8hrs a way and she said she rather spend it at home, I feel like she kind changed. She does send me packages once a week, letter once a week and pictures every other week. What do you think?
She sends you packages once a week. A letter once a week. Pictures every other week. And she is raising a 3 yr old and a 13 yr old. I don't think she has much time for cheating. And I don't think I would feel much like hangin' out with your folks when i know i would only be thinking of you and i would be sad missing you over the holidays and seeing your folks would just remind me of how much i miss you. its hard enough having children that are a constant reminder of how much she misses you. im sure she sees you in your children every day. did you really expect her to stay the same as the day you married her? Not happenin'. She is strong. She is army wife strong. Thanks to both of you we sincerely appreciate all you both do to protect our freedoms.
She feels uneasy that's all, who would like to socialize with your husband EX wife and child?? Nobody does.. Your daughter has her mom and she doen't need her step mom to be there. It doen't seem right
May be she is working or sleeping when you call, about your daughter can you blame her may be she doesn't want got all the way to East cost, and your parents no one likes their in laws.
dont think u could hire a private investigator from iraq can u lol? anyway try to focus ur mind elsewhere until u get home and sort it all out like the other person says. hope everything works out for u and good luck out there xxxx
Doesn't sound like much to go on dude... no solid evidence to show she is cheating. Filling Out Arrival-Departure Record, CBP Form I-94, for ::
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Maybe she misses you and doesn't want to stay at home and maybe she is going out with friends.
If she is sending you packages and writing you letters...i dont think you have anything to worry about. it when you start not recieveing anything. As for you daughter and parents...some ppl feel its best to have the spouse there while they are visting the other persons family. I know I am like that...as far as my inlaw. My husband knows I dont do stuff like that just like he would do it either.
Wait until you get home to sort all this out.
Or if you must, hire a private investigator and get the facts.
Why don't you get back home?find another job.working in army is enough for you!
She wants you not your family
Hard to say if she is or isn't.
You could ask her to purchase a cell phone and
try and carry it with her at all times.
I mean, it should reduce the missed calls you have to her.
i think you might be insecure and paranoid...
okay, so she didn't want to deal with your ex or your parents... i know the feeling... ;)
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however, that isn't likely to prove she is cheating...
she probably enjoys the time alone... and if she is cheating, it will be with someone while your son sleeps... late at night... :D
I will tell you that I did not like to spend time with my husband's family when he was deployed. It sucked so bad to see them all laughing and having a good time--without my husband. The siblings all kind of resemble each other, so whenever I would look at one of them, I'd see his eyes or see his smile, and around the Holidays, that is the absolute worst kind of punishment. Don't be too hard on her.
EDIT: Also, I forgot to address that she has probably changed. She is now a single mom, but not really. She has the responsibilities of a wife (joint finances, joint decisions about your child, etc) but she is all alone and has to implement your joint decisions alone. Deployment makes you grow up really fast, especially if you have kids. Also, I would like to remind you that just because she has changed doesn't mean that she has cheated. Perhaps she is just having a really tough time keeping it together. Good luck to both of you!
I don't see anything here that says she's cheating. I don't blame her for not wanting to make an eight hour trip with a 3 year old or not wanting to fly to another coast. Those are hard things to do with a child.
There's no reason she shouldn't be out and living her life, taking your son places, and so isn't there every time you call. You must have trusted her enough to marry her, so why stop now?
Perhaps you should stop telling her what to do for starters. Don't assume the worse. Appreciate what she is doing and go from there. And stop trying to control where she spends the holidays; there will be plenty of time for that once you return.
Good luck to you and be safe.
remember this lesson: No second chances for cheaters , at that age she should alrdy know what is right or wrong.
The only way to be sure is to hire a private investigator. It's costly but it's a the best way to deal with this. Another plus is that you will have evidence of infidelity in the marriage and it will make the divorce and custody process simpler. Don't come to conclusions cause you might be paranoid. Private investigator is the best way. You live in California and i bet there are thousands of firms you could look up.
I am Also in the Army, although I have never deployed ( in a non deploy-able unit) my husband has... deployments are hard on both of you, and yes people do change even if you haven't noticed it you have change also! So I wouldn't just jump to accuse her of cheating*** even though the ratio for military spouses cheating is outrageous *** doesn't mean shes cheating, I would get more proof before accusing her
 What are the situation when Husband and wife has to depend on eachother? (Other than sex)?
 When was the last time you were intimate ?
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I'm Deployed I Think My Wife Is Cheating?