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My New Year's resolution is to get the fire going again in my marriage. We have been together going on 17 years and the kids are all grown now.
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How often have you made a New Year’s resolution and never achieved it? How many times did you start out full of determination and willingness to exert effort to succeed, but somehow lost the momentum three weeks later?
This year, before making a declaration, take time to examine the “reason why” you are considering it. Is it to Coach Karl's Success Blog::
Most resolutions are made at the last minute of New Years Eve without consideration When you can measure the outcome, your chances of success go way up.
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correct something you think is wrong or is it to fulfill a dream-come-true? The key to success lies in the “motive” for making the resolution in the first place. As Vickie points out in her Nothing Is Impossible Program™, goals that are established to carry out your aspirations are more likely to be accomplished and those that try to fix something hardly ever work.
Some of the differences between the two are:
• Resolutions made to correct something cause us to make sacrifices until that glorious day when they are achieved. We construct a plan and struggle day in and day out with trying to make it happen. This adds a stressful burden, draining us both physically and mentally. When we set a resolution to accomplish a dream, it nourishes us, not only when we finally accomplish it, but also every step of the journey.
• Almost always, making a resolution to correct something sends a clear message, “we are not good enough.” No matter how much effort we have put in or what we have accomplished, it’s still not good enough. This can easily lower our self-esteem a notch or two. Making a resolution based on a dream doesn’t beat us down before we get started. Instead, it jumpstarts the confidence that is needed to accomplish it.
• When we make a resolution to correct something there is no guarantee we’ll be happy when we achieve it. This is one of the reasons why so many lose the weight and then put it back on. Working on a resolution based on a dream, just by the nature of it, does make us happier.
• Finally, there is no way we can escape feeling, even a little bit, that we have botched up and done something wrong when we dont succeed at correcting something. Because we feel we have done something wrong, there is a tendency to punish ourselves for it, which makes it even worse. On the other hand, if we dont meet a goal based on a dream right away, we are more lenient with ourselves, knowing every day we’re getting closer.
Change the way you make this year’s resolution by asking yourself these questions:
• Will I have to make sacrifices to accomplish it?
• Will I feel like a failure if I dont complete it?
• Am I going to be dissatisfied until it is achieved?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are probably making resolutions to correct something. If you decide to keep it youre really setting yourself up for a battle, consisting of plenty of hard work, sacrifices, and the fear you wont succeed.
Remember, the key to success lies in the “reason why.” If you make a resolution to fulfill a dream, it is automatically successful, whether you achieve it or not. Success is built-in every step of the process. Each step is fun and easy, gives you more confidence, and builds your self-esteem a little higher.
Vickie Champion is a life/business coach and speaker committed to helping people master their INNER game and achieve their dreams.
She has coached as many as 54 concurrent clients on a one-to-one basis and has given over 650 classes and workshops. Currently, she has five Nothing Is Impossible Program™ groups in process and is starting two more after the holidays.
Visit her website at www.NothingIsImpossibleProgram.comor contact her at Vickie@VickieChampion.com or call (602) 249-1912.
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