The other day I met a friend for lunch. We were sitting in a diner, chatting about our lives, families, friends. Then, the inevitable happened (as it always does, you know)-weight and food. But this time it was different, she wasnt talking about her weight, she was telling me a sad story about a friend of hers, whom shed just visited.

Her friend (lets call her K) is a large sized woman who has been trying to lose weight for as long as she can remember. This fried of hers had been on many diets, gained and lost, gained and lost. You know the drill. This time, during this visit, though, my friend knew something good was happening. K was cheerful, bouncing around, talking happily about her life- and, most interesting, she had her shirt tucked in. When asked why she seemed so cheerful (and comfortable with herself), K said it was because she had recently lost 8 pounds. Ahh, THAT explained the shirt being tucked in. We all have our tells-things we do when we are feeling good about ourselves. I, personally, wear sleeveless shirts when I feel confident about my body. Who knows why I think my arms may be thinner? But its my tell.